Bumble BFF proves what we all know, that friendship is a two way street; it’s not as easy as swiping right

Even after meeting someone, I had those second thoughts before texting someone. It was this balance between being friendly and being too “clingy.” Sometimes there’s the thought that the other person doesn’t want to talk to you, and I don’t know where these insecurities come from, but they come up.

Maybe this whole thing is the “strangest” thing – making friends online. Is it basically a subtle cry of desperation? Maybe. Why is it seen as desperation though when you’re putting yourself out there? It’s about expanding your circle outside of the people you see everyday. Why stay comfortable and be friends with only people who you work with? There’s so many more people out there who have different interests and mindsets.

The whole point, which nobody ever says out loud, is that it’s hard to make friends. It’s hard to say to the world, “I’m lonely. Looking for some cool people to hang out with.” We’ve been thrown with signs and videos and shows about how easy it is to make friends. It’s not that simple in real life. I have to drive out to meet people usually in their place of convenience. I have to spend money because meetings revolve around food and drinks. I have to wait for the weekends to see people because that’s the only time I’m free. I have to make sure the timing is right because people are out of town a lot. It’s kind of an inorganic process where it takes several times to forge something that becomes organic.